Self confidence building with a positive frame of mind.
Life will never be all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of being. Encountering difficulty is not a bad thing, the main concern is the approach we take to deal with it. A positive frame of mind is imperative for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to increase performance in efficiency and quality. We are usually more confident and perform better when we are feeling good and well.
There are biological explanations of this. A positive frame of mind is due to enhanced levels of neuro transmitters like serotonin that regulate the efficiency capabilities of the mind. The knock results of a positive frame of mind also include enhanced wellbeing not just better mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is because of the enhance to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.
The reverse is also true, when we are depressed we are a lot more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our relationships with others degrade, we start to think irrationally and our confidents can fall. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling unhappy ever so often is not uncommon but the way in which we decide to face a dilemma comes from our state of mind.
A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. People who think positively are more likely to see challenges rather than problems or opportunities rather than difficulties. For instance, entrepreneurs that are successful generally are because they are able to spot opportunities for progress in a marketplace which other people only see troubles in. The positive mental attitude of a successful individual means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to ensure success and make their vision come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The problem for numerous people is in developing one in the first place.
Creating a positive frame of mind is not some new aged fad. For hundreds of years religious men and scholars alike searched for and developed methods to harness an inner harmony. While this may have begun to make mankind closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant in the present day. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only direct us in to ways of being which are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.
Among the easiest ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with people? Or are you insular and terrified. Believe it or not one of the best ways to conquer a negative frame of mind is to change your attitude towards the world around you and that means the people in it too. If you are usually uncomfortable around other people then try this experiment.
One night force yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not be concerned about how you look or appear or what you discuss. A reference about the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.
You see, how you are with others will influence the opportunities you get presented. Think about it in this way who is the most likely to get a job between two people of identical ability and experience except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with people and the other is laid back and comfortable with people. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.
Are you feeling down and unable to shift that negative frame of mind? If so check out Quentin’s free seminar on Overcoming social anxiety.